Here are some useful books that you can ask for at your library or book store.
Changing Families: A Guide for Kids and Grown-Ups
Fassler, David, Michele Lash, and Sally B. Ives.Waterfront Books, 1988.
Difficult Questions Kids Ask and Are Too Afraid to Ask – About Divorce
Schneider, Meg F., J. Offerman-Zuckerberg, and J. Zuckerberg (contributor)Fireside, 1996.
Divorce Happens to the Nicest Kids: A Self Help Book for Kids
Michael S. Prokop (1996) Alegra House
For ages 9-12. Explanations of the common issues faced by this age group when their parents divorce or separate.
Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe and Evan’s Coping Guide
Ellen Sue Stern, Zoe Stern & Evan Stern (1997) Tricycle Press
For ages 9-15. Feelings of guilt and anger. Dealing with living in two homes and avoiding manipulation by parents. Talking to friends and parents and dealing with parent’s new relationships, step-parents, and step-siblings.
For Better, For Worse: A Guide to Surviving Divorce for Preteens and Their Families
Janet Bode and Stan Mack. (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001.)
Grace and Family
Hoffman, M., and C. Binch. F. Lincoln, 1997.
Help! A Girl’s Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies
American Girl Library. (Middleton, Wisconsin: Pleasant Company, 1999.)
How It Feels When Parents Divorce
Jill Krementz Alfred A Knopf, 2006
In this immensely moving book, nineteen boys and girls, from seven to sixteen years old and from highly diverse backgrounds, share with us their deepest feelings about their parents’ divorce.
How to Survive Your Parents’ Divorce
Nancy O’Keefe Bolick (1995) Franklin Watts
For ages 12-16. Interviews with teens whose parents have divorced or separated. Comments and advice based on the interviews.
It’s Not the End of the World
Blume, Judy Yearling Books, 1986
Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two
Isolina Ricci Fireside, 2006
“Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids,” is an inside view of separation, divorce, and forming a stepfamily. It is primarily for children 10 and older to read alone or with their parents.
Pre-teen Pressures: Divorce
Goldentyer, D. Steck-Vaughn Company, 1998.
Snowman: A kid’s guide to coming to terms with separation and divorce
Risa J. Garon Children of Separation and Divorce Center Inc., 2000
This book is a companion to “A Kids’ Guide to Coming to Terms with Separation and Divorce, Part II”, which is directed to a more advanced reader. Younger readers may want to read the companion book with a more experienced reader.
Surviving Divorce: A Student’s Companion to Children in the Middle II
Donald A. Gordon and Jack Arbuthnot Center for Divorce Education, 2005
This booklet is a resource in dealing with topics such as you and your family, some myths and truths about divorce, how divorce makes you feel, asking for help, getting on with your life and many other excellent discussions.
Surviving High School
Mike Riera. Celestial Arts Publishing, 1997.
Mike Riera, who has worked with students for over nineteen years, speaks directly to students about the situations and changes they will face both during and immediately after high school. Interspersed with the author’s down-to-earth, practical guidance are the words of teens who offer their own points of view and experiences.
Teens and Divorce
Gail B. Stewart. (Greenhaven Press, 2000.)
Teens with Single Parents: Why Me?
Margaret A. Shultz (Enslow, 1997.)
The Divorce Helpbook for Teens
Cynthia MacGregor – (2004) Impact Publishers
Deals with questions: Why do parents get divorced? How will the divorce change our lives? What can I do to feel less depressed? Who can I talk to about my problems? What’s going to happen next? How do you tell absent parents that they do not visit enough? How do you say “no” to parents who want you to carry messages to, or spy on, the other parent? What is there to talk about when you visit a parent who’s moved away?
The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Break Up
(Instant Help Books, 2008)
What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce?: A Survival Guide for Kids
Roberta Beyer and Kent Winchester Free Spirit Publishing, 2001
Aimed at children ages 7-12, this guide explains divorce, new living arrangements, and other basics to help children understand what’s happening in their lives. With honesty simplicity, and authors help children realize that divorce isn’t their fault, strong emotions are okay, and families can survive difficult changes.
When Your Parents Split Up...How to Keep Yourself Together
Alys Swan Shultz. (Enslow, 1997.)
These titles are provided for your convenience only. The Judicial Branch of California does not endorse them and is not responsible for their content.
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