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Here are some useful books that you can ask for at your library or book store.

Changing Families: A Guide for Kids and Grown-Ups

Fassler, David, Michele Lash, and Sally B. Ives.Waterfront Books, 1988.

Difficult Questions Kids Ask and Are Too Afraid to Ask – About Divorce

Schneider, Meg F., J. Offerman-Zuckerberg, and J. Zuckerberg (contributor)Fireside, 1996.

Divorce Happens to the Nicest Kids: A Self Help Book for Kids

Michael S. Prokop (1996) Alegra House

For ages 9-12. Explanations of the common issues faced by this age group when their parents divorce or separate.

Divorce is Not the End of the World: Zoe and Evan’s Coping Guide

Ellen Sue Stern, Zoe Stern & Evan Stern  (1997) Tricycle Press

For ages 9-15. Feelings of guilt and anger. Dealing with living in two homes and avoiding manipulation by parents. Talking to friends and parents and dealing with parent’s new relationships, step-parents, and step-siblings.

For Better, For Worse: A Guide to Surviving Divorce for Preteens and Their Families

Janet Bode and Stan Mack. (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001.)

Grace and Family

Hoffman, M., and C. Binch. F. Lincoln, 1997.

Help! A Girl’s Guide to Divorce and Stepfamilies

American Girl Library. (Middleton, Wisconsin: Pleasant Company, 1999.)

How It Feels When Parents Divorce

Jill Krementz Alfred A Knopf, 2006

In this immensely moving book, nineteen boys and girls, from seven to sixteen years old and from highly diverse backgrounds, share with us their deepest feelings about their parents’ divorce.

How to Survive Your Parents’ Divorce

Nancy O’Keefe Bolick  (1995) Franklin Watts

For ages 12-16. Interviews with teens whose parents have divorced or separated. Comments and advice based on the interviews.

It’s Not the End of the World

Blume, Judy Yearling Books, 1986

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids: Feeling at Home in One Home or Two

Isolina Ricci Fireside, 2006

“Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids,” is an inside view of separation, divorce, and forming a stepfamily. It is primarily for children 10 and older to read alone or with their parents.

Pre-teen Pressures: Divorce

Goldentyer, D. Steck-Vaughn Company, 1998.

Snowman: A kid’s guide to coming to terms with separation and divorce

Risa J. Garon Children of Separation and Divorce Center Inc., 2000

This book is a companion to “A Kids’ Guide to Coming to Terms with Separation and Divorce, Part II”, which is directed to a more advanced reader. Younger readers may want to read the companion book with a more experienced reader.

Surviving Divorce: A Student’s Companion to Children in the Middle II

Donald A. Gordon and Jack Arbuthnot Center for Divorce Education, 2005

This booklet is a resource in dealing with topics such as you and your family, some myths and truths about divorce, how divorce makes you feel, asking for help, getting on with your life and many other excellent discussions.

Surviving High School

Mike Riera. Celestial Arts Publishing, 1997.

Mike Riera, who has worked with students for over nineteen years, speaks directly to students about the situations and changes they will face both during and immediately after high school. Interspersed with the author’s down-to-earth, practical guidance are the words of teens who offer their own points of view and experiences.

Teens and Divorce

Gail B. Stewart. (Greenhaven Press, 2000.)

Teens with Single Parents: Why Me?

Margaret A. Shultz (Enslow, 1997.)

The Divorce Helpbook for Teens

Cynthia MacGregor – (2004) Impact Publishers

Deals with questions: Why do parents get divorced? How will the divorce change our lives? What can I do to feel less depressed? Who can I talk to about my problems? What’s going to happen next? How do you tell absent parents that they do not visit enough? How do you say “no” to parents who want  you to carry messages to, or spy on, the other parent? What is there to talk about when you visit a parent who’s moved away?

The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Break Up

(Instant Help Books, 2008)

What in the World Do You Do When Your Parents Divorce?: A Survival Guide for Kids

Roberta Beyer and Kent Winchester Free Spirit Publishing, 2001

Aimed at children ages 7-12, this guide explains divorce, new living arrangements, and other basics to help children understand what’s happening in their lives. With honesty simplicity, and authors help children realize that divorce isn’t their fault, strong emotions are okay, and families can survive difficult changes.

When Your Parents Split Up...How to Keep Yourself Together

Alys Swan Shultz. (Enslow, 1997.)

These titles are provided for your convenience only. The Judicial Branch of California does not endorse them and is not responsible for their content.

Q & A

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