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There's no doubt about it—it isn't easy when your parents split up. In fact, it might be the hardest thing you've ever had to deal with—as if just being a teen isn't enough!

Whether you saw it coming after a lot of conflict and tension, or it just seemed to come out of the blue, you will probably experience some intense emotions. The good news is that it's entirely normal—and it will get better!

This section:

  • Describes some of the emotions you might be feeling, as well as some other reactions you might have.
  • Suggests ways that you can make yourself feel better.
  • Tells you when to get help.

Q & A

If my parents divorce, will the same thing happen to me?

Many teens whose parents split up feel anxious about their own relationships in the future. But just because your parents split up doesn't mean the same thing will happen to you. What happens in your relationships will be up to you, not your parents!

I'm feeling guilty about my parents splitting up. Was there something I did to cause it?

It's very common for teens to believe that they have somehow caused their parents to split up. But you are not the reason for your parents splitting up. Parents split up because of problems in their relationship.

It's not your fault!

I'm feeling really upset and confused about my parents splitting up. Is this normal?

It's natural — and entirely normal — to experience some intense emotions. You will feel better over time. There are lots of ways to help yourself feel better, and people who can help you if you need it.