It's very common for teens to believe they somehow caused their parents to split up. You may be asking yourself things like, "Was it something I did?" or "Is it my fault?" Or you might be thinking that it wouldn't have happened if you hadn't argued so much or if you had done better in school.
If you’re saying things like this to yourself, stop! It's not your fault.
Remember: Parents split up because of problems in their relationship. They are responsible for splitting up—not you.
When two people have been living together and they decide not to live together anymore, they are separated.
However, when married people separate, their marriage has not yet ended. They have to get a divorce to legally end a marriage.
Couples who have not been married don't have to get a divorce, because there is no marriage to end. But they may still be going to court to decide on parenting time and dividing property.
Most parents split up only after trying very hard to save their relationship. Their decision to separate or divorce is usually final.
Some teens hope and believe that if they try to be on their very best behavior, their parents will get back together. However, this plan isn't likely to work, since their parents' decision to split up had nothing to do with them.
Apart from suggesting that your parents see a marriage counselor, if they haven't already done so, the best thing that you can do is to begin to accept the situation so that you can get on with your life.
If there are things you need to know, ask.
You have a right to ask questions about what is going to happen and why. Although you need to respect your parents' right to privacy, they have a responsibility to answer your questions as best they can about things that directly affect you.